I’ve had a lot of people ask me how I feel about the recent ban on the adoption of Russian orphans by parents in the United States, and honestly, that has been a little overwhelming. When I found out that Putin had signed the bill into law, it felt like I was just told that I can’t have children. My heart is in Russia. It has been for years. And now the door from here to there has been bound up by politics.
And there is nothing I can do about it.
When I shared with a friend how I was feeling, he said, “But, you still can have kids. There are other countries. There are kids here who need to be adopted. And you can probably still have your own.” As selfish as it may sound, that hurt almost as much as the news of the ban itself. Other countries, domestic adoption, biological children…that has not been my dream or my heart’s deepest desire.
You wouldn’t (or at least you shouldn’t) tell a woman who had just been told by her doctor that she was infertile that “everything will be okay, there’s always adoption and fostering and surrogacy.” No, you would mourn with her the loss of a dream.
So that is all I am asking of you at this point. Mourn with me.
And mourn with the hundreds of thousands of Russian orphans who are waiting for their forever families, who now have a that much smaller chance of ever being adopted, because the largest population to adopt them is no longer allowed to.
Pray for the Russian people who are speaking out against the ban. I don’t want to speak generally or ignorantly about the Russian government, but free-speech doesn’t mean the same thing in Russia that it does here.
Pray for the proposed reform of the orphan care system in Russia. If you know anything about its current state, you know that it really is not the best place for a child to grow up.
Pray for Russian families, that their hearts would be opened to adoption, especially of special-needs children. There is a rather large stigma against adoption in Russia and that stigma is even larger when it comes to adopting a special-needs child.
And finally, pray for the orphans, in Russia and around the world.